CO-PARENTING WITH MR STRONG
My husband is amazing both as a husband and a father. This is something I don’t take for granted. I realise it is a complete blessing to have this amazing man by my side.
There is no doubt in my mind that my husband was born to be a dad. He’s naturally affectionate, nurturing and loving. He just knows how to handle situations that most of us parents find difficult. He passionately pours his heart and soul into raising our three boys to be kind, loving and respectful. Often when I tell people that “Jono takes care of the kids most of the time,” it is interesting to hear some of the responses. There’s definitely often shock or surprise!
It’s seems many people’s perceptions of who should stay with the kids, even in this modern world, is the woman. Either way, having a parent being able to stay back and care for the kiddies, is awesome, right?! I guess other people’s perceptions of Jono being the primary care-giver to our kids means that often his motivation for other things is often being questioned. We have had questions that show that in him wanting to stay back with our kids, maybe is not making the most of his life, or he was ‘missing’ his purpose. I have been challenged by why society can think this way.
I know plenty of stay-at-home dads and respect every single one of them. I don’t think raising their children makes them any less of a man. I can’t help but feel sorry for our generation whose brains still default to the lies that society feeds us. The lies that tell us men who care for their children full-time are somehow void of ambition. That they lack passion and drive. That because they don’t have a ‘real’ job, they are somehow less than. That the women is surely better to do ‘that’ job. That they don’t deserve respect.
The truth is, staying home with the kids is a very precious job. Pouring his heart and soul into our kids day in and day out teaches me so much about the love God. His love for us is so complete, unhindered and unconditional. Parenthood is demanding but rewarding. It’s chaotic but brings peace to hearts! Teaching them, molding them, shaping them and demonstrating our values would give them the best chance at succeeding in this big big world. It’s awesome to see Jono rocking being with the kiddies wherever we are! I love the way he is consistent whether we are out in rural areas together in Western Kenya, or in the U.K. awaiting visas and seeing family. I love that my kids always have their Father around to wipe their tears away when I’m not around, make their meals, impart our values, pick them up when they fall down, he nappy trains, disciplines consistently and does laundry!
But, do you know what’s the best? He sees us as co-parents and I do too! I do all that stuff to when I am at home too! We are 50/50! We are both there for the highs and lows, the good and bad times, the easy and hard. Forget what society says, what people think! You’re family and circumstances are unique and God has a plan for you and yours that is possibly different from others. God alone knows what’s best for you and your family!
As we continue to seek a life on the mission field, wherever than may be, I’m certain my kiddies will grow up knowing their Father was present. Thank you Jono for the Baba you are to our boys!
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